There's More to Your Relationship Than the Conflict
Both of you are worn out by the same argument.
Tell Me What's Going On
You Know How This Fight Goes
It starts small and it gets big fast.
By the end, neither of you remembers what set it off. Nothing got settled, and neither of you has anything left.
It will be back before the weekend.
People get tired of fighting.
What Happens When You’re Both Running on Empty
Somewhere in there, each of you reached a private conclusion about the other.
One of you has decided there’s no pleasing the other. The other one has decided nothing they say lands right.
So you stop raising things at all.
Raising them takes a whole evening neither of you has to give.
The quiet is doing more damage than the fighting did.
You can be this tired and still come back from it.
Tired of the Same Fight — Email Me TodayLearn to Work Through the Hard Things Together
Right now the two of you argue as two individuals. Each of you builds a case and waits for a verdict.
The work is learning to negotiate and problem solve as a couple instead of two individuals.
Expressing what you want gets taught here. So does listening, which is the half most people assume they already have.
When the Pattern Starts to Break at Home
The change shows up in ordinary weeks before it shows up anywhere else.
- Raise a hard thing without losing the whole evening.
- Say what you actually want, in words that land.
- Listen well enough that nobody has to repeat themselves.
- Settle a disagreement all the way to the end.
- Trade something you want for something your partner wants.
The week stops getting organized around the last fight.
The Three Phases You'll Work Through
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Say It All First
You express everything you think is wrong. We agree on how the work will go, and on a little bit of homework.
Nothing stays unsaid between you.
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Learn The Skills
You learn how to say what you want or need, how to listen, and how to negotiate as a couple.
You both get the tools.
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Use Them At Home
You practice what you've been learning, in the arguments that actually come up. This doesn't mean success initially.
You get better together.
Get On The Same Side Of The Table
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Trained For What Happens In That Room
My doctorate in clinical psychology came out of an APA-accredited program, and I'm licensed as a psychologist in several states.Plain Language, Start To Finish
You'll hear why a skill works and exactly how to run it, without one piece of jargon you'd have to look up.Honest About How Hard It Gets
The instructions are simple, and doing them week after week is the hard part, and you should know that before you start.
Stephen Gutknecht
Frequently Asked Questions
We meet by video, the three of us in one session. You can sit side by side on a single screen or log in from two separate ones.
Both of you get to say what’s actually wrong, out loud, with me listening to all of it. Then we agree on how the work will run from there.
Yes, both of you attend. Same room or separate rooms will work, as long as each of you can hear and be heard with nobody else in earshot.
Plenty of people get here because somebody else set a deadline. Being pushed makes the work harder, and I’d rather say that than let you find out. What matters is what you do once you both show up.
Write to me and tell me what’s been going on between the two of you. Say if you’d like the free consultation, and I’ll set one up.
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Take the First Step Today
Right now the two of you negotiate against each other. Two sides, one table, and whoever wins, the pair of you lose.
The work moves you both around to the same side of it. Same problem sitting in front of you, and the two of you working it together.
You’ll still disagree. You’ll just do it as one couple instead of two individuals.
Tired is a good place to start from.
What Happens Next?
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